Styles I like... but am I too fat to pull it off???

I am a big girl... I like fashion, but am scared to dress myself sometimes.  I love shopping, but I almost always shop by myself and I don't trust store associates because I feel they just want to make a sell and don't want to hurt my feelings by saying "Honey, with those arms, I wouldn't be wearing a skinny strap tank top."  I want to start dressing in something other than jean shorts/sweat shorts/yoga pants and t-shirts that have stains, tears, and bleach spots.  I always make sure my boys are dressed nicely and cute... but somewhere along the line I have given up on myself.  I get myself a haircut once a year.  My ponytails are always... lumpy.  My eyebrows tend to get neglected and I do a bad job of tweezing when waxing is so much faster and easier.  My nails and feet... I am too ashamed to go there. I have TONS of makeup and really don't know how to put it on correctly or pick the right colors.  I can't remember the last time I bought a bra that fit right and matching sexy panties. 

Why is it, that when we become mommies, we forget how to take care of ourselves?  I take showers often, so I am clean.  I stay on top of shaving the pits and legs.  Maybe I don't shave all they way up the thigh like I used to... I stop about 2 inches above the knee since that's where my bermuda shorts stop at.  I don't even bother to put on at least mascara before going to Walmart.  I have even gone so far to not wear a bra if I am just driving to the Food Lion down the road to pick up milk!  ACK!  I can't believe I even said that.  And my girls need a bra on at all times... they are BIG'UNS!  I don't even know if I am a DDD, F, G cup size anymore. 

Have you ever looked on the People of Walmart website just to be sure you are not on there???  I check weekly... partly because they are funny and I also check to see if anyone I know is on there. 

Anyways, I know I have that "Don't like what ya see? Don't look at it then!"- attitude... but I do want to start dressing up a bit more.  I saw those outfits above on the plus section on oldnavy.com and I really like them.  I love yellows and turquois lately.  I just wonder if I wear them would people be thinking "Honey, just cause they make it in your size, doesn't mean you should wear it."  Because I have seen people dressed in things that I have to admit the thought has crossed my mind.  I don't like to be judgemental but can we really help it at times?!  I am sorry, but horizontal stripes and full on animal prints on a big girl can be a bit much.  I guess it also depends on the girl sporting the look. 

Well, my spider monkeys are starting to get hyped up and bored.  And when they get bored, TROUBLE inevitably ensues.